We’re here to tell you that porn is a highly edited, airbrushed, scripted fantasy, and it isn’t close to an accurate representation of healthy sexual relationships.

That statement may seem like common sense, but the reality is that millions of people watch porn in hopes of getting informed about sex and relationships. But here’s where we’re dropping some knowledge on the situation: checking out porn on the regular won’t actually benefit your brain or your love life, in the long run. Let’s dive into why.

Avoid the Lessons Porn Teaches

In case you didn’t know, porn doesn’t often tell the full story of sex, love, and relationships. It can be easy to assume real sex is often like what you see in porn, and perfectly reenacting what’s in a few choice porn videos can be a prime way to spark a physical connection within a relationship. After all, if the actors look like they’re enjoying it, why wouldn’t you?

Part of raising awareness that porn kills love is bringing up the fact that whatever misinformation you think you can take away from porn is probably not applicable to real life. In porn, sex is often something done to a partner(s) as a means of control, domination, or punishment—not experienced with a committed partner as an expression of affection and intimacy.

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But the answer to the problem isn’t avoiding physical relationships completely because part of being human is being sexual and building healthy relationships with REAL people.

But how can you have a positive, healthy perspective of sexuality while the most graphic, degrading porn imaginable is free and just a click away? The World Health Organization says having good sexual health “requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence.

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Translation: clearly, not what’s shown in porn. Porn is saturated with violence against men and women, capitalizes off of degradation and humiliation, and the industry is filled with drugs, abuse, and coercion. Also, too often, porn sexualizes incestuous relationships, non-consensual relationships, and promotes messed-up messages about what consent really is. This is in contrast to a healthy respect for sex, which includes committed and loyal relationships, knowing yourself, having healthy communication with partners, as well as safe, consensual and mutually satisfying sexual experiences.

Sex is More Than That

Part of learning how to have good sexual health and understanding can involve realizing that sex is more than just a single act. It’s more than the mechanical, robotic movement of body parts, it’s more than looking like and acting like a porn performer. Healthy sexual relationships are whole-person experiences within larger contexts. Sex and relationships involve emotions like attraction, excitement, closeness, trust, desire, and love. And they include experiences like dating, holding hands, cuddling, and kissing, all in addition to physical intimacy.

A lot of the time, porn doesn’t do justice to any of those emotions or experiences, and the industry promotes ideas like that commitment is “boring,” mutual pleasure isn’t too valuable, and respect and intimacy aren’t as important as looking and sounding sexy. How is that a healthy thing for our society to have as the go-to for sex tips?

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The bottom line is that real love is way better than porn, not to mention how it’s also so much healthier. Compared to real love, committed relationships, and sex as an expression of intimacy, porn sex is just a sick, exaggerated joke.

People Deserve More

Pornography often shows the most shallow and inaccurate version possible of sex and sexuality. Sex is so much more complicated than what is shown on Pornhub, and porn just doesn’t compare to or convey that reality. The more people think of pornography as being realistic or helpful in learning about sex, or the more they want to try out what they see in porn in their real experiences, the more likely it is that their perspective of what sex is may be warped.

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Sex shouldn’t be commoditized and turned into a shady, for-profit business. People are more than their parts, and sexual relationships are so much more than what’s shown in porn. Demand better than what porn sells, and fight for your real love.

What YOU Can Do

Porn doesn’t benefit your sexual health or sex life. SHARE this article if you think having a healthy sexuality is an important part of relationships.

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